A Talk About Handling Stress

Basically, stress sucks. Learning to manage stress is one of the essential parts of being a productive human being. It’s challenging to get any work done if the stress of life is weighing down so hard on you that it’s difficult to breathe or focus on any one subject. When I feel particularly stressed, I recognize all the privilege I have, but I also recognize that it’s hard to be me.

It’s hard to be anyone.

Can I be honest with you? This week has been the week from hell for no particular reason. There is nothing different about this week, and yet, my brain seems to want to single this week out as special. Instead of accepting how the week’s going, it’s finding ways to increase my stress and I’m definitely using more self-deprecating language.

What I hope you can get out of this post is a recognition that you aren’t alone and some coping strategies for when stress is so overwhelming you just can’t.

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How to: Have the Best Morning Ever

I have a secret to tell you: I’m a morning person. Despite finding myself up way later than I should be most nights, I don’t actually enjoy it. In an ideal world, I’d be going to bed no later than 10:30PM and waking up at 6:00AM. Strange, right? I actually want to wake up early.

I’ll let you in on another secret: I didn’t always use to be this way. In fact, it was only when I started university last year that my attitude towards the morning really changed. I’ve always had to wake up early to get to school, but I used to dread being up before the sun was properly set in the sky. When I think back to what sparked this change, I can only link it to one thing – I wanted some alone time.

Living in dorms meant sharing my space with roughly 25 other girls, and seeing one girl every time I was in my room. Waking up early gave me at least an hour of quiet before the craziness of the day kicked in. Despite no longer sharing a dorm room, I do still have roommates and getting to have a little bit of time in the morning that’s just mine has become a feeling I love.

My hope is that I’ll be able to share with you some tips and tricks to help make mornings the best thing about your day.

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Best Songs of Autumn 2016

It’s that time of year again! Everything is pumpkin spice, people are itching to get out their favourite sweater, and all I want to do is drink warm tea. Autumn officially hit September 22nd and I couldn’t be happier. I don’t know how to explain my love of fall to someone who doesn’t share it, but trust me when I say it’s the purest form of happiness.

To make sure I’m consistently in the autumn mood this year, I made myself an autumn playlist. I typically make myself a playlist every season with all of my (predicted) most listened to songs, so I figured I’d share it with you guys and spread the love! I hope you enjoy!

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TV Shows to Stream This Fall

Do you smell it? That first fallen leaf? I know I can always smell when fall is in the air (or maybe that’s just my pumpkin spice candle). As fall quickly approaches, so do midterms, and so does the cold weather.

I know whenever fall hits I’m torn between wanting to spend all my time outside, and just wanting to burrow myself in a corner with a good book and some tea. For days when a book just isn’t enough, I like to stream some things on Netflix.

Now, I live in Canada so these are my show recommendations in terms of TV shows Netflix Canada has, I can’t guarantee that they’re all over Netflix.

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My Experience Getting My First Tattoo

I have not always been on Team Tattoo. Until about a year ago I would constantly wonder why someone would want a tattoo at all. I had so many questions for people who did get tattoos, and most of them weren’t very considerate. 

My favourite questions among them were “what does it mean?” or “but how will that look when you’re older?”

As the title might have suggested, I’ve changed my tune. This summer I decided to get a matching tattoo with one of my best friends and I can’t express how much I love it.

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How To Be A Full-Time Student With A Part-Time Job

I adore back-to-school season. It’s hands down, my favourite time of year. By the time September rolls around, I’m more than happy to abandon my summer vibes and get back to warm drinks and crazy study hours. What I’m less excited about is finding ways to balance school and work during the academic year.

For me, and a lot of other students out there (I know you’re out there), there’s no way I’d be able to afford school without working part-time during the year. The ability to earn even a few extra dollars that I can spend on coffee when I’m cramming for an exam is so important to me.

If you’re debating whether or not you can balance a part-time job with university, debate no more! As long as you have the smallest shred of time management skills and some motivation, you can do anything. But here are a few tips to help you out along the way!

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The Sex Talk : Consent

Today’s post is part of a larger series called “The Sex Talk”. Often we think of The Sex Talk as an awkward conversation we have with our parents where the phrase “when a Mommy and Daddy love each other very much…” because that’s what’s been normalized.

There’s something wrong with that sex talk.

It (normally) only mentions the idea of sex for reproductive purposes and doesn’t mention topics that fall under the sex and gender category. We often don’t talk about how some people are LGBTQ+ with kids, while others identify as cisgendered straight folk. Or that sex happens between consenting parties.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I get it’s hard to explain this all to a kid (I barely understand all of it), but sex talks shouldn’t happen just once. The Sex Talk should be a dialogue that everyone participates in at every stage of life and it should surround more than just how babies are made.

Today’s topic is consent. Below the photo, I’ll be talking about what consent is and how to get consent. While a lot of what I say might seem like it’s obvious, for a lot of people it isn’t.


DISCLAIMER: While I don’t have any explicit content, topics such as this can be triggering. Please check in with yourself and make sure you make the best decision for you to feel safe at the moment.

I’m not claiming to know everything here. I’m just a student who is interested in furthering her own understanding of the crazy world she lives in. If you need further explanation on any claims I make, or think I’m wrong about something, please let me know in a polite way. I’m happy to edit this post until it’s perfect.


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How To: Set Goals for the Academic Year (and beyond!)

As a list junkie, I love setting goals. Writing down what I hope to accomplish so that I’m able to organize the craziness in my brain brings me a lot of joy. For whatever reason, when it comes to writing down my goals I can never remember what I wanted to do.

Part of this is my goals are always super vague. I want to do things like ‘work on my blog more’ or ‘hang out with my friends more’. While those are totally things I can try to accomplish, what do they really mean?

Maybe I’m just a terrible goal setter, and that’s okay, but I have to work hard to figure out goals and to-do lists. So hard in fact, I’ve created a system. A simple one (because I’m lazy) but a system all the same.

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How NOT to Procrastinate in College

Procrastination is an old friend of mine. Sometimes, I’ll invite procrastination over for tea and he’ll stay for a week. If you can honestly tell me procrastination has never overstayed his welcome, then this post isn’t for you. I don’t think I have any advice that could help.

As much as I like to think I’m on the ball, it’s only within the last few months that I’ve been battling my procrastination habit. Let me tell you, it’s a hard habit to break. So don’t think of this list as me telling you I’m perfect and have all the answers (trust me, I’m far from perfect). Instead, think of it as a friend helping a friend with strategies for productivity.

Before tackling the big stuff, it’s important to answer three questions: why do you do it? When are you most productive? And what are you in the mood to do?

From there, figuring out how to tackle procrastination and boost your productivity is a piece of cake.

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Questions to Ask Your Roommates Before Moving In

Having a roommate can be both the most amazing experience, and a really tough one. For some people, getting a roommate in university leads to what is essentially an assigned best friend. In order for any roommate situation to work, there needs to be a lot of open communication.

I know some people who’ve grown incredibly close to their roommates and that’s great! For others, (like myself) a lack of communication can lead to simply co-existing with your roommate. You want to at least be on good chatting terms with the person who can watch you sleep.

So, if you’re getting a new roommate this fall (or just need to check in with some old ones!) I have a comprehensive list of questions you should ask your roommate to get to know each other.

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